Opposites Attract


Opposites Attract

After being on Catholic Match for about two years, I decided in December of 2006 to attend a Catholic Match Day in D.C. I had just graduated college and had moved to a suburb of Baltimore so I was looking for some new friends. I looked at the profiles before the event of some of the men going and I noticed a guy named John but he didn't quite seem like a match and there was another guy going on the trip who looked more interesting. Also, being a church musician who likes traditional music, I set a rule for myself that I wouldn't date anyone who posted "On Eagle's Wings" as their favorite song because I didn't think that showed creativity or deep knowledge of the Church (everyone knows that song!). John had posted "On Eagle's Wings" as one of his favorites to weed out people like me!

Since Catholic Match tells you if someone views your profile, John saw that I looked at his, so he looked at my profile. His thought was nice girl, but it will never work, thinking that I was too staunch a conservative.

Well, John and I met on the Day in D.C, got to talking, and hit it off (the other guy showed up with another girl). We both had to leave the day early, me for a staff Christmas party, John for a Church pot luck. He drove me from the place we had lunch to the place I parked my car and that gave us the chance to exchange e-mail addresses.

We went on our first date the next weekend and that is when we got caught. After our date John called his parents, who said that they tried to call him earlier. He said he was watching his Buffalo Bills (which he had before our date) but they said they called after the game. He came clean and said he was on a date. During the 20 questions that ensued he revealed that my parents lived in PA about 1hr. and 45 mins. from his parents. His mom immediately invited me to their house during the time we would be at our parents houses at Christmas. I met his parents, his sisters, his aunt, uncle, and cousin that evening. We ended up babysitting his adorable niece for our third "date", and that was that!

We dated until October of 2007 when he proposed at St. Peter's Church in Harper's Ferry, WV. There were lots of tourists that day so while John waited until some of them left the church, he took some pictures, while I listened to a tour guide who said that they just started to allow weddings at the church again (it had be under renovations). When the tourists left John came back to propose but before he could say anything I said, "that tour guide said they just started having weddings here." Well, that threw John off and more tourists came in making it unromantic (in John's view) again. So he took more pictures and when he was finished he came back and asked me to marry him.

We got married in St. Peter's Church on July 11, 2008 (7-11 is an easy anniversary to remember!) and went to Italy for a three week honeymoon afterward!





12 Comments

  1. Brian-252799 May 1, 2010 Reply

    I like this article very much

  2. Brenda-492841 May 1, 2010 Reply

    It is so interesting how we put up so many barriers that keep us from meeting that special person. I know in my case, I tend to only want to date men who are college educated. I guess I always felt communication would be better , with those who are college educated, so that the relationship is more intellectually stimulating. That certainly has nothing to do with the desires of the heart, or whom God chooses for us. When the relationship then sours, one then must ask themselves if that individual was God's choice for me, or my choice! God's will in that choice should be our main focus! If you are not a communicator, or even more of an introvert, all the college degrees in the world won't change that! Thanks for your article. Many of us needed that as a wake-up call, to enable us to see just how shallow we are in these self-limiting lists that we tend to make in seeking love. Blessings to both of you!

  3. Joyce-210866 May 2, 2010 Reply

    Congrats ! That is a great story of courtship !

  4. Pilar-476902 May 8, 2010 Reply

    how do you know if you found a perfect match. He has to love God first. Then everything else would come easy.
    I find many times he is not willing to do anything for me, while I am for him. Keep the faith

  5. Marie-568105 May 21, 2010 Reply

    a wonderful love story with a happy ending
    Marie

  6. Darren-336767 May 24, 2010 Reply

    Must remove Eagles Wings from my profile… but seriously thanks for sharing that's a lovely story and congratulations!

  7. AlanMartin-481297 May 30, 2010 Reply

    An interesting fairy-tale love story, just like yours, John and Sara. Gee, I just wish I may find the right lady for me somewhere here at CM (maybe 4 blocks away from here) regardless of her status and across the long distance… ^_^

  8. Paula-324170 June 9, 2010 Reply

    Great Story … CONGRATULATIONS!! :-)

  9. Jessica-524950 June 29, 2010 Reply

    lol i happen to have "on eagle's wings" on my profile b/c it was always my favorite and then later gained sentimental value. glad to hear it all worked out:) love hearing stories of people that don't think they are meant for eachother then find out they are:) it all really shows we are in God's hands:)

  10. Catalina-593925 June 29, 2010 Reply

    I firmly believe that if there is someone for us, we will meet. God knows best !! If He does not have someone for us, He has other plans for us. We have to trust and have faith in Him.

  11. Katie-443543 July 6, 2010 Reply

    so cool! congratulations to you both! :)

  12. Lori-492169 February 3, 2014 Reply

    Aww, now that was just awesome, yeah for y’all!

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