Distance Makes The Heart Grow Fonder


Distance Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

I joined Catholic Match on a whim, partly to help me heal after ending an unhealthy long-term relationship. In reality, I joined only to read the profiles and remind myself that there indeed are good men out there. Many of the problems of my previous relationship were due to fundamental differences in our core values. Since
all of my personal values could be traced to my Catholic faith (which
my ex-boyfriend did not share and in fact often belittled me about), I
decided that in the future I would only date fellow Catholic.  However,
at that point I believe that it would be months, if not years, before I
was ready to date again and I was content with only looking at profiles. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that God had other plans for me!

Shortly after joining Catholic Match, I started exchanging messages and instant messaging with a few men on the site. While
several seemed to have the qualities I looked for in a husband, I was
instantly drawn to a particular young man named David. We began exchanging messages in early March 2008, shortly before my twenty-first birthday. We
talked on the phone a few weeks later (including one night in which we
spoke for 8 hours straight!) and met for the first time on March 29.  I was very nervous waiting for him to arrive at my house, but the date went surprisingly well. He was exactly the same in person that he presented himself as on the website and over the phone. 

Within a few months, I knew that this was a man that I could marry and raise a family with. Although I found him to be good-looking and intelligent, I was most attracted to his strong faith. When
he graduated from college a few months after we started dating and
decided to go to graduate school out of state, I was devastated. While I knew that long distance relationships work for some, I thought that they would never work for me. I began to ask God why he would have put this wonderful man in my life only to have him move away. It was with this mindset that we agreed to try a long distance relationship. 

Once again, God had surprises in store for me. Not only did our long distance relationship work, it flourished. Without
being able to see one another on a regular basis, we were forced to
talk often and learned more about each other in the first six months of
dating than most couples learn in a few years. The
long distance also forced us to make a commitment to each other early
on, and David gave me a promise ring in September of 2008 when I flew
out to visit him. The distance has not been without its difficulties and I especially struggle with having “two separate lives”. I
am very close to my family and a small group of friends, and they have
not had the opportunity to get to know David and spend time with him as
much as I would like, although they have all given me their approval
and blessing. 

David proposed to me on July 16, 2009 while on a camping trip with my family. He
asked my father for his approval beforehand and I said “yes” without a
doubt in my mind that he is the man that God led me to. I graduated from college this May and we will be getting married on July 17, 2010. I
will be moving to live with him until he graduates with his Ph.D. and
am very excited to not only be his wife but to finally be able to see
him every day. 

I will be forever indebted to Catholic Match. I joined the site with no expectations and within two weeks found the man I am going to marry. Although
it is not often that people look at modern technology as an instrument
of God, I know that He was at work on Catholic Match





26 Comments

  1. Julia-592990 July 1, 2010 Reply

    Beautiful story. God is great. Hopefully this story will strengthen everybody in CM (including myself), who's looking for their soul mate. And may God bless your upcoming marriage and all the details along with it. Be beautiful, be merry, and be blessed! Cheers

  2. Anne-424446 July 1, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations Amanda & David. Yours is a lovely story..and proof yet again that a Long Distance Relationship CAN work. I wish you both much LOVE & happiness.

  3. Patty-531275 July 3, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations! It just goes to show us, that if we do God's will everyday in our lives, HE will lead us.

  4. Jude-76391 July 5, 2010 Reply

    I think you should continue, you have a good thing going!!!!!! FAITH!!!! FAITH IN GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  5. James-509702 July 5, 2010 Reply

    Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness and blessings!

  6. MaryEllen-207916 July 7, 2010 Reply

    Glory to God in the Highest… He definitely works miracles through modern technology! All our best to you and David… Congratulations! Bob and I also met through Catholic Match.. and we too have a long distance relatonship… but add in some teenagers who have to finish high school and you and David sound just like Bob and I!

  7. Joy-447534 July 7, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations…in 10 days you're going to marry…celebrate love with God…I wish you both all the happiness and best wishes!…

  8. Simon-380492 July 10, 2010 Reply

    That's beautiful guys. Thankyou for sharing. God Bless you both.

  9. Michael-170950 July 12, 2010 Reply

    well, Congrats 5 days early!

  10. Gerri-578030 July 13, 2010 Reply

    Your story is amazing, as is God….May his Peace Bless you both in a long and happy relationship and marriage. I too went on CatholicMatch on a whim and to date have two great "pen-pals… I am 75 years young and enjoying these new "pals"….Congratulations, early….

  11. Arlene-357129 July 13, 2010 Reply

    Congrats to you both. I think your story is amazing and it gives people hope about faith and love. God Bless both of you.

  12. Katie-189049 July 15, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations on your wedding in two days!!!!!!

  13. Caryl-146651 July 16, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations!! God Bless You Both!

  14. Kimberley-598881 July 19, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations, newlyweds!

  15. Thomas-596908 July 26, 2010 Reply

    What a great story.My friend Carl and I can't get over why people are so against long distance relationships.As long as there is Communication,trust and Integrity.well…..with God …All things are Possible"!!!!

  16. Christina-535917 July 27, 2010 Reply

    Congrats!! Love your story.

  17. Maclean-483042 July 29, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations!!! beautiful love story, God bless you both.

  18. Grace-583851 August 5, 2010 Reply

    Beautiful story congrats to you both , we belive because nothing is impossible by God.
    God bless you both..

  19. Kathy-555815 August 8, 2010 Reply

    Nothing is impossible with God. God bless the 2 of you.

  20. Amanda-608480 August 9, 2010 Reply

    So sweet! Congrats!

  21. Marilou-529899 August 19, 2010 Reply

    wow! i love your story!wish someday or soon i'll find my future husband too….congratulations to both of you!

  22. Richard-504051 August 20, 2010 Reply

    I think thats great, I found someone on here and i really liked her alot but it kinda went to fast and now we decieded to stay friends and see where God taks us. I really miss her and I hope GOD has her in his plans for me. I think about her everyday and I hope she still has feelings for me. Pray for me, I want to have a happy ending, but her happiness is more important then mine. GOd Bless you all.

  23. Nubia-562864 August 25, 2010 Reply

    What a loving story with a happy ending. It sounds like you had an open heart. Congratulations!

  24. Joseph-148077 August 26, 2010 Reply

    Yea Richard, I feel your pain buddy, i had a similar story to yours but, I don't think she's coming back to me… O well God still has to tell me what he wants, I thought he did but I guess I was wrong.

  25. Dave-104327 August 30, 2010 Reply

    This really works great when you are 20, 30 or 40. Once grand kids are born, the parties usually throw in the anchor and nobody is going anyplace!!!!!!!!!!!!

  26. Nair-469441 September 5, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations!!! God Bless You Both!!!

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