Sudden Celebrity: Seeing My Face On The Cover Of People


Molly and Jason Mesnick from "The Bachelor" on the cover of People

Almost two years ago from today, I was packing my suitcases, tying up loose ends with my apartment and scrambling to get as far ahead at work as possible. I was preparing to leave for ABC’s “The Bachelor” – what I considered a simple adventure in dating, one I expected to end with the first rose ceremony. As I said goodbye to my family and friends, my parting words were, “I love you and I’ll see ya in a week!”

Fast forward to today. I was walking to lunch with a co-worker. Along our way we stopped at a street corner to wait for the light to change. In mid-conversation I hear the girl standing next to me shout, “Oh my gosh! You’re Molly! Can I take a picture with you?” (Something I will never get used to!)

To say the past two years have been a whirlwind of emotions and thoughts would be an understatement.  Before “The Bachelor,” I was a simple girl who felt blessed to be living with a loving family, enough food, clothing, and opportunity to do all of the things that young women dream of doing.

It was easy then to be aware of exactly who and what I was: Molly from Michigan, who wants to go to college, have a great career, get married, have children, and give back to those less fortunate. I say it was easy because I was dealing only with those negative and counter-productive thoughts that any normal young woman would have.  They were simpler to push away, pray away and forget about.

That instantly changed the day I landed in L.A. to begin filming “The Bachelor.” That simple Midwestern girl who used to read People magazine was now in People magazine.

I will never forget the day I saw myself on the cover of the magazine for the first time. It was March 2009 and I was in the airport, so I stopped at Hudson News to pick up a copy. I tried to put my head down as I walked up to the counter because, well, something in me felt strange purchasing a magazine that I was featured on. My under-the-radar tactic lasted all of three seconds until the cashier noticed it was me.

“Molly? Is this you?”

She said it loud enough for everyone in the store to hear, so I was immediately bombarded by strangers asking me to autograph a copy or take a photo with them.

I walked out of the store in complete awe. I had known my life was going to change, but at that moment, it became official. I was shocked that a perfect stranger would recognize my face. I was stunned that someone would get so excited to take a picture with me. This was crazy…but kind of fun!

The perks of being on television were beyond my wildest dreams. We were able to travel to New Zealand, South Africa, and Turks and Caicos. I was a guest on Ellen, Regis & Kelly, Jimmy Kimmel, and Good Morning America. I’ve been able to meet celebrities, skip the line at a club, receive gifts of clothes, bags, shoes, etc. I was living the life of a celebrity.


Tabloid news and gossip mongers

Sure the perks were amazing, and I don’t take a minute of it for granted, but it wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies either. I quickly learned that everyone had an opinion about me, whether they knew me or not.  I was no longer Molly, the down-to-earth girl from Michigan. I was Molly, the girl from “The Bachelor.” It’s as if I became a character in the general public’s eyes, and my identity as a real person was lost.

No one wanted to hear about the solid relationship Jason and I were building or the charity we were working with. Rather, they wanted to know what I was wearing, how much weight I had gained, or that Jason and I weren’t going to make it. In a matter of minutes, our exciting adventure was overshadowed by hate, superficial judgments, and negativity, and I was starting to lose myself in that fierce disdain.

You may guess the typical response: “You signed up for this, so if you don’t like what comes with the territory, it’s your own fault.” That statement is partly accurate, but when I signed up for “The Bachelor,” I had no idea what was about to come my way. There was no crash course on “What to expect when you’re on TV,” and at that time, I certainly wasn’t aware that stories of failure and conflict sold more magazines than stories of success!

It didn’t take long for the thrill of celebrity to wear off. I got to a point where I became, quite honestly, depressed. I couldn’t understand why all of these people, whom I’ve never met, were judging me. The show was over! Why do they care so much about the fact that I changed the color of my hair or how much time I am or am not spending in Seattle?

I wanted my anonymity back…but it was too late.

I was at a life low, and I didn’t know how to come out of this dark period. I didn’t know what was going to fulfill my life with happiness, and I didn’t know just who Molly was anymore. It was at that point that I had to lean on God for guidance and I prayed every single day. When I did this, I felt safe. I knew I wasn’t going to be judged and I knew that God would help lead me to a better place in life.


A fresh start

I remember it like yesterday when I woke up one random Tuesday morning and declared, “Today is the day! This is the day that I am going to start my life!” I no longer cared that someone I didn’t even know thought my freckles were ugly. It didn’t bother me that US Weekly printed a false story that my relationship was “on the rocks.” I realized that life isn’t about red carpet events, free swag, and magazine covers.

I’ve certainly made some mistakes along the way, but never for a minute will I regret the road I’ve taken.

Throughout this journey I have learned so much about myself and I have found out who Molly is. I have a wonderful husband who I can’t wait to grow old with, a family who loves me (even when I make mistakes), friends who support me through the good and the bad, and God, who will point me in the right direction whenever I am lost.

It took a lot of ups and downs to get to this point, but I can honestly say that this crazy path has brought me to the happiest point in my life.






46 Comments

  1. Amanda B. September 17, 2010

    Molly,

    Very well written piece. We, the reader, can definitely sense the emotions soar and plummet in the same thought. Best of luck to you and Jason!

    -Amanda

  2. Kelly S. September 17, 2010

    I really like your story :) very well written too! I’m from Olympia and always think it would be so cool to run into you guys. Lol I know that makes me a dork…but your love story inspires me.

  3. Amanda S. September 17, 2010

    AWW…Molly! I loved you from day 1 :) I think you are a perfect match for Jason! I love following you on twitter ! Will you follow me ? aspain24

    Thanks Girl!

  4. Abby C. September 17, 2010

    Molly,
    I’m an Ohio native, and in March of 2009, I was flipping channels and paused because of a couple I saw with great chemistry. I quickly realized it was the “Bachelor” and I said to myself: “Those couples always break up, but THIS couple is getting married”. I was instantly invested and don’t recall ever being so opinionated about a topic. I’m so happy for you, Jason, and Tye.
    Great article. Seattle is on my list of places to see someday, so maybe I’ll see you guys around.

  5. Latoya M. September 17, 2010

    Molly… I reallly commend you for just being a honest about your whole bachelor experience… The good bad and ugly. It takes ALOT for anyone in the spotlight to do that. I just appreciate you being honest and sharing your ACTUAL point of view not tabloids. I think we get soo caught up in the drama that we forget behind the scene these people are real. They have real feelings. I am always on your twitter page.. love reading the updates. I wish you, jason, and tye nothing but happiness!!! Take care and God bless!! :) Oh and Psalm 34 helps me out when times are rough… :)

  6. Colleen S. September 18, 2010

    This is a very insightful piece of the Bachelor process. I can’t even imagine what it would be like to have your life change in such a short period of time. I am glad that you have your faith to help you through the tough times. I hope that you are happy and that your life with Jason is everything you wished for.

  7. Laura M. September 18, 2010

    I really enjoyed your blog and I always like to read your twitter updates. So glad that you are in a happy place….I wanted to see you and Jason make it!
    From – just a girl in Alabam who reads People magazine

  8. Shannon M. September 18, 2010

    A very touching and well witten piece this is. I have been so fortunate to have followed You and Jason through your journey. Congrats to you both and you deserve nothing but the best.

  9. Grace-628165 September 18, 2010

    VERY NICE!
    BUT people do wonder WHY doesn’t jason’s son Ty ever go to Michigan?
    He could meet his “step cousin” right?
    And WHY do YOUR parents NEVER visit you, Jason & Ty in Seattle?
    Just seems odd!

    • Maryann M. September 18, 2010

      Grace, I believe we’ve seen you before on Twitter and JP. We’ll pray for you.

    • Jerry-74383 October 4, 2010

      Grace, why are any of these questions, much less the answers to them, any of our concern? Merely raising the questions is gossip…

  10. Maryann M. September 18, 2010

    Wonderful article, Molly. We’re so proud of you, and hope you continue to rely on the Lord for comfort and guidance. See you in November!

  11. Teresa G. September 19, 2010

    molly what a well written blog. ty for sharing your heart. no i can’t imagine what you have gone thru but it made me mad at how you both had horrible things written about you and the mean things people say. i never forgot you were a real person or jason. btw you were my fave day one…im so happy you found yourself and that your at peace. been there done that myself recently and it is a great place to be

  12. Jilly B. September 21, 2010

    Molly your wonderful! I love it! I miss you too darling! Maybe i should pop down this week for a little lunch and visit? mmmm …. Also Grace … how do you KNOW they haven’t been to Michigan? and how do you know Moll’s parents never get up there? With Mama M, I’ll be praying for you too ;)

    Molly…. MUAH!!!

  13. Leona N. September 21, 2010

    You are an amazing lady and it is just so sad that you had to go through all of this just because of being on the bachelor. Best of luck to you and Jason.

  14. Shannon K. September 23, 2010

    Honestly, best of luck to you and your amazing man! You are one amazing woman and I love the work you and Jason are doing for single parents. I too am a struggling single parent of a child with disabilities and I wish I had the time and resources to help others find their way like you two have.

    Keep on smiling pretty girl! You deserve the world at this point in your life…you really do. Best of luck. Love and light!!!

  15. Jessica F. September 23, 2010

    Molly, I didn’t watch your season of the Bachelor, but of course I heard all of the drama. I think that you are a strong woman, and brave, to get through all of that and still be with the man you love. Keep your chin up, and know that not everyone buys into what gossip mags say!

  16. Ric H. September 23, 2010

    What a great story. I’m glad you, Jason and Ty have made a life together. Very happy for you.

  17. Melanie J. September 23, 2010

    Molly,

    I liked your article! I remember seeing the magazine stories and I don’t know how you two got through that. It really shows how much you two love each other. God Bless you guys! I wish you both a long healthy and happy life together.

  18. Elizabeth C. September 23, 2010

    Molly- I watched your season a bit, didn’t see all the gossip on you until I just read an Reality Steve apology (I didn’t read him back then). You seem like a really amazing girl. I’m a former mid-westerner too… You remind me of my sweet friends back home. I wish you and Jason the best and it is so great to see a couple that has had so much exposure making it work.

  19. Pat W. September 23, 2010

    Wonderful article, Molly! It is so nice and refreshing to hear someone talk about the faith in their life and how important it is! Great insight, and kudos to you for not getting caught up in the fakeness of the celebrity life! May you and Jason, Ty and any children you may have find happiness in your life, with God at the center!

  20. Jennifer L. September 23, 2010

    OMG ! Joe…get a life!!
    Molly…ignore the negative people. If they were happy with who they are they wouldn’t be ripping into other people. I’d say good luck to you both but I don’t believe in luck. That takes away from personal responsibility and hard work. I wish you lots of happiness, love and laughter through the years.

  21. Denise C. September 23, 2010

    I wandered over here after reading the apology on Steve’s site. I think it was very big of you to accept his apology. Thank you for sharing your story; I appreciate your candidness. You seem like a very grounded and thoughtful person. I wish you and your family all the best!

  22. Barbara B. September 23, 2010

    Thank you for sharing Molly. Wishing you all the best in life and love. Thats what its all about anyway!

  23. Laura H. September 23, 2010

    Molly, I just wanted to say that I have never thought a bad thing about you or Jason. You don’t know me so my opinion is moot, but just remember that for every person that thinks something bad, there is one that doesn’t. You are an honorable woman to rise above everything the way you have. Be proud! {Jer. 29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord. “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.”}

  24. Charity S. September 23, 2010

    Think you’re great Molly! You’ve shown so much class by keeping you’re head held high. Good luck to you & Jason and God bless!

  25. Shana B. September 23, 2010

    I just read reality steve’s apology to you and he suggested to read what you wrote above. I did not watch your season but I watched the after the rose and read what all the tabloids wrote. I feel bad that I judged your relationship on just those 2 things. After watching your wedding I felt really happy for your guys you seemed really in love and a good match. What you wrote above is fantastic and puts the whole bachelor show in perspective in general. I am so happy it worked out for you guys. For what it’s worth I never saw the big deal of jason changing his mind to begin with. I mean that can happen in real life. I am surprised it hasn’t happened more on the show. Good luck with everything!

  26. Whitney P. September 23, 2010

    I thouroughly enjoyed your story, thank you for sharing. I wish you, Jason and Ty all the happiness in the world.

  27. Jennifer P. September 24, 2010

    Molly, this was very inspiring. I was reading Reality Steve’s blog and he had a link to this website and said it was worth reading. Well, I just wanted to say it definitely was. I didn’t watch the Bachelor back when you were on it and I’m glad I missed the media crucifying you. I am also glad you came out of it a much stronger woman, even with the pains it caused you. Congradulations to you and Jason and I hope you get your happily ever after.

  28. Randi Y. September 24, 2010

    Wishing you, Jason and Ty all the best from Singapore! Probably the most genuine family on the show’s history ;-)

  29. Stephanie E. September 24, 2010

    Molly nice article I found your article from Reality Steve It is true with God all things are possible. I live in Ohio and yes kind of crazy going from the midwest to LA. Good luck to you. Stephanie

  30. Susan P. September 24, 2010

    Molly,

    What an inspiring viewpoint. Hold onto the love of God, family and that wonderful guy you call your husband. God Bless you both.

  31. Hilary C. September 25, 2010

    Molly!
    Beautifully written! I have been rooting for you and Jason from the beginning. It was obvious what you had was real and it does not surprise me in the least to see you married and so happy. I admire how you got yourself through. You should be so proud of yourself! Stay focused on your life together and God bless. You are one beautiful young woman!

  32. Siv L. September 25, 2010

    This was a very inspirational read. Thanks for taking the time to pour it all out.

  33. Kim T. September 25, 2010

    Well said, Molly! Your words are very touching and tugs on my heart string. You are truly a wonderful woman. I’ve always been a fan of Molly and will always wish you and Jason the best! Keep being the strong woman that you are. <3

    - Kim

  34. Beth B. September 27, 2010

    Molly – I’ll admit I was one of the “haters” in the beginning. A Texas girl myself, I was pulling for Melissa from the beginning. And I hated seeing her hurt in such a way. I didn’t like Jason for how things were done on TV and felt like you could do better than him. But, as just a short bit of time passed, I realized that we, the viewers, really knew nothing about the “real” story. Reading this blog really puts into perspective what it was like in your life. Now (and for quite a while) I just wish happiness for you & Jason. It’s what you all deserve!

  35. Heather A. September 28, 2010

    Molly, you seem like SUCH a nice person and I am so happy for you. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and may God bless you.

  36. Liz P. September 28, 2010

    Molly, I am a long time Bachelor/ette viewer. I will admit that I was who wasn’t thrilled with the end of Jason’s season and all the drama that went down. I discovered Reality Steve’s blog during that time and not knowing any differently believed what he was blogging. I have since come around and am now fans of you, Jason, and all the great work you are during for the charity. I was a single mom for 2 years before meeting my husband and wish I had had a support network like Jason’s Place to come to for advice and support. Thank you for writing and posting this wonderful piece about your experiences. I wish the 3 of you the best of luck in the future!

  37. Phil-347749 September 29, 2010

    As a paying member of Catholic Match, I am puzzled as to why they are featuring this woman and her relationship on this website. As far as I know, her marriage to a previously divorced man isn’t valid in the church. Did he get an anullment? Did the Mesnicks take the necessary steps to get their marriage validly recognized by the church? If not, I sincerely hope and pray that they will do so.

    • Maryann M. September 29, 2010

      You have a right to your opinion, but this is just a blog, nothing more. If the Pharisees were here today, I’m certain they could have written your comment.

      • Jerry-74383 October 4, 2010

        If Phil is correct in stating that her husband was divorced and this is common knowledge, either from the show or the extensive publicity that followed, then this couple’s relationship is source of scandal and Phil raises a VERY legitimate question.

        A Catholic may not validly marry anyone who has been previously married unless the other party, regardless of their faith, has received an annulment or their previous spouse has died. This is a very clear and objective truth.

        Because this relationship has played out in a very public forum, certain facts regarding the relationship are widely known; others may not be. If the information that is widely known, be it complete or not, portrays a scandalous situation, the couple is responsible for that — most especially if Molly is presenting herself publicly as a Catholic. Furthermore, Catholic Match is also responsible for furthering the scandal by promoting this relationship.

        If Mr. and Mrs. Mesnick have in fact privately taken all the required steps for the Church to recognize their marriage, they should make that clearly known in order to eliminate the on-going source of scandal.

        Even if the Mesnicks have had their marriage blessed by the Church, I still think it is inappropriate for a Catholic site such as Catholic Match to be using it for publicity given the circumstances under which it evolved, unless it is presented in a manner that provides a positive moral focus, such as emphasizing the recognition and correction of the _public_ errors.

  38. Michele H. September 29, 2010

    I always liked you and Jason…it bothered me that so many people can be so mean and cruel. First off The Bachelor is a dating show to find love and that is exactly what you and Jason did. I’m glad that Jason realized that he made a mistake with choosing Melissa and went after you. I admire you that you didn’t let pride get in the way of true love for you and Jason. I liked what you said about God because it’s so true…he will point us in the right direction whenever we are lost. I’m sorry that you and Jason had to go through so much to be with the person that you love. God bless you both in your marriage!

  39. Debra L. October 4, 2010

    Molly,
    I never believed a word of the awful news in the tabloids. I saw your sweet reaction to Jason’s genuine words of love and saw Melissa’s unlady like reaction and knew Jason had made the right choice…I was always rooting for you. He seems to be a wonderful man.
    God Bless you both,
    Debra

  40. Ron-40989 October 7, 2010

    Why is this article even here? How does it relate to Catholic Match?

    I find this odd. Quite honestly, I don’t care about these “celebrities”.

  41. Mendi Y. October 21, 2010

    Thanks so much for sharing such your touching, honest recount of everything you’ve gone through. I’ve been rooting for you two since the ATFR show aired. Jason seemed so sincere in his change of heart and I’m really happy you were able to lean on God to get you through this media storm. Best wishes to you for a happy future together!

    To some of those who have commented, why point fingers and split hairs about Jason’s divorce? God extends the same grace to each and every one of us for our past mistakes. I believe in a loving and merciful God and that having a personal relationship with Him and trying to live in His will TODAY is ultimately more important than the “rules” of a particular denomination. In God’s eyes is one sin worse that another sin? Are any of us perfect?

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