Prince William Asked Dad — Should You?


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Ladies, my deepest sympathies to all you Prince William hopefuls. After dating for several years, the probable someday-king has proposed to his girlfriend, Kate Middleton, and they hope to get married in the spring or summer.

Amid all the excitement surrounding the engagement (according to The New York Times, Prime Minister David Cameron said his cabinet responded with a “great cheer” and “banging of the table” — how British), there’s the sweet fact that Prince William asked Kate’s father — a middle-class guy, by English accounts — for permission to marry his daughter.

While we can expect a lot of traditional flair in royal affairs, some consider a guy asking a girl’s father for her hand to be entirely old fashioned. After all, it’s the girl’s decision, not her dad’s, even if it is a formality.

And it’s not like she’s some piece of property, like a power-drill or garden ladder. Some guys ask for the father’s blessing, indicating that they’re leaving the choice up to the girl. GroomGroove.com suggests that guys ask both of the girl’s parents at the same time, eschewing “last century’s rules.”

At TheKnot.com, one commenter wrote she doesn’t think asking a father for a girl’s hand is old fashioned at all. “It [is] not about asking permission, but about showing respect and love to future family members. A marriage is still combining families together, and to let the parents know is a kind and polite gesture,” she wrote.

The Art of Manliness is a big fan of asking a father for his daughter’s hand, but it does offer seven pieces of advice, including making sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page first and asking the dad in person if possible.

I know guys who’ve taken their future father-in-laws to ballgames, out for dinner, or on a walk around the farm when asking to propose. One guy dropped the question in the middle of an  “American Pickers” and “Pawn Stars” History Channel marathon, proving that the moment doesn’t have to be formal to be meaningful.

So, CatholicMatchers, what do you think? Guys, when you find the right girl, will her father know first? And girls, is your guy asking your dad endearing or insulting?



Editor’s update

ABC announced that Prince William asked Kate’s father after proposing! He said he was afraid he could say no. CatholicMatchers, does that affect the way you think about asking the bride-to-be’s father?






11 Comments

  1. Jennifer-630652 November 17, 2010

    I definitely want my guy, when he comes around, to ask my dad. Totally endearing! :)

  2. Jim-397948 November 17, 2010

    I would love to ask both Dad and Mom!

  3. Cat S. November 17, 2010

    I think it’s a very important sign of respect to the father of the bride-to-be. The father was the most important man in his little girl’s life when she was growing up. It is good and proper for the new most important man in his little girl’s life, the husband-to-be, to respect that.

  4. Elizabeth A. November 18, 2010

    Certainly an endearing tradition that shows respect and honor for the father of the bride-to-be. She may not be his property, but she is his daughter – he deserves recognition for all that he has sacrificed in making her the woman he fell in love with.

  5. Bridgette B. November 18, 2010

    Endearing!! =)

  6. Eileen-532088 November 18, 2010

    I also want my guy to ask my parents prior to asking me – more as a sign of respect towards my parents and inclusion of them in our future family.

    • Jacqueline-198 November 19, 2010

      I don’t care how long I am when/if happens, I’d want my guy to ask my parents…during my most recent relationship, I asked him that if our relationship should lead to marriage, I’d love for him to ask my parents for my hand, it’s sweet, romantic, respectful and it says a lot about the man himself in my honest opinion. I’d also want BOTH my parents to walk me down the aisle, they both had a major part in molding me into the woman I am today so they both should get the honor, plus, they’d probably just do back flips and chest bumps when it happens, just saying, LOL!!

  7. If I were her dad I’d say, “No, Prince William! You may NOT marry my daughter!” Ha. Ha. No, seriously. I would. Do you think that’s ever happened before with princes?

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