Small-Town Boy Gives Big-City Girl A Single White Rose


Dustin and Cassandra walked the journey together in Faith

If we take the first step, God takes over and can lead us in ways we never planned. It’s a basic lesson in the spiritual life and one repeated so often it can start to seem trite. But the truly profound is almost always this simple and the case of Dustin and Cassandra is just the latest proof of this axiom.

Dustin wasn’t even looking for a relationship when he joined CatholicMatch. He was in the midst of a “reversion” to the practice of the faith and just wanted to surround himself with good Catholic people. With his job requiring a substantial amount of international travel, he felt dating someone would be a difficult commitment.

He was open to God’s plan though and one night on CatholicMatch, was just browsing through the “Who’s Online” part of the website. “A beautiful woman from Florida named Cassandra was there on that list…It had to be the hand of God.” He clicked her profile and sent a quick hello. Even though she was busy and unable to chat, she indicated an interest in reconnecting.

“I was a small town kid from Alaska,” Dustin told CatholicMatch, “quiet and introverted. She was a beautiful outgoing woman from the big city of Miami.” This alone piqued his interest and before he knew it they were talking everyday.

Cassandra talked openly of him making a visit to the Catholic town of Ave Maria, where she was spending the summer, upon his return to the States. The idea made him nervous, but his openness hadn’t changed. They agreed to keep the visit on a “friends only” level to reduce the pressure.

It didn’t take long for Dustin to realize he wanted much more than friendship. “Her strength in character, her intelligence, her personality and her beauty all endeared her to me,” he said. As they continued to talk, they came to see they were in love and needed to move forward as a committed couple.

Dustin and Cassandra both continued to put God’s will at the center of their lives. It was one night they each prayed before the Blessed Sacrament separately that they each reached the same conclusion: they were called to the vocation of marriage with each other. How was Cassandra so sure?

Before having ever met Dustin, she prayed to St. Therese of Lisieux and asked how she would know when she’d met her spouse. The “Little Flower” led her to understand that she would be given a white rose. A few days prior to her first serious marriage conversation with Dustin, he — knowing nothing of the story — brought her a single white rose.

The delivery of a rose through Dustin was a fitting and miraculous sign for a couple steeped in God’s will. They will be married in July.






14 Comments

  1. Beautiful story it brought tears to my eyes! Can’t wait to be a wedding planner so I can truly share in moments like these with couples destined for marriage! Congratulations to you both.

  2. Wow! Touching.They seemed suited for each other.God Bless both of them

  3. Yssa-701268 March 22, 2011

    Wow ! What a nice love story !

  4. WOW – thats amazing grace how sweet the sound.

  5. Beautiful, great idea!

  6. Wonderful. Truly, it is!!!

    But the whole story failed to elaborate on the details regarding how often they actually saw each other…and how much it cost in order to see each other (frequent airfare?). THIS is the true test of following on through on one’s faith. Its pretty hard to follow a sign that is 1,000 miles away rather than simply the next town over. So, I’d like to know more, please!

    Please explain the practical obstacles so I can truly appreciate this. :-) Does someone own an airplane? Is someone completely financially independent? How did you overcome the distance? Did they pray and receive free airline tickets?

    • Cassandra F. May 23, 2012

      Hey Matthew! Not sure if you’ll ever find this response, with it being so late, but my (now) husband was/is a USMC vet :) He was still on trips to Afghanistan when we met….he flew back and forth between his leave to see me for the duration of a year. Upon the completetion of that first year, we were engaged and 1 month before our wedding he came home for GOOD. :) We are now happily married, he’s home for good, and our first daughter is due in 3 months. God Bless!

  7. Beautiful story!

  8. Congratulations to the both of you.

  9. This is so beautiful! Congrats to both of you!

  10. Bel-559366 April 16, 2011

    “just wanted to surround himself with good Catholic people.” nice that’s why I’m here as well. :D

  11. Cassandra F. July 27, 2013

    Been happily married for 2 years now…and welcomed our first beautiful daughter 1 year ago. (Cecilia Therese) :) GOD IS GOOD! Let’s see when He blesses us with another baby, we are hoping it’s soon!

  12. That is a Bless union! Congratulations to you both. St. Therese did a good job as she always does.

  13. SOOOOO Beautiful :):):):)

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