Michelle-629774: ‘Let Us Fast From Comparisons’


Stop comparing yourself to your married friends!

By Michelle-629774


“I don’t think people realize how irreplaceable they are,” one of the religious sisters I lived with told me one night.

Although she made that comment almost two years ago, I revisit the message daily: We truly are gifts. Perhaps this Lent, we can feast on our giftedness while fasting from comparing ourselves to others.

What does it mean to be a gift?

It means, first of all, going to that place of solitude, the place of transformation where we encounter our vulnerabilities and wounds. It means, then, that we go into the desert with Jesus, just as He did before he began his ministry.

It requires us to come to that place where we have nothing to prove and to simply allow ourselves to be loved. It means embracing our humanity just as Jesus did – weaknesses and all.

Thus, it can only be life-giving if we allow ourselves to reverence our uniqueness. One of the best ways to do this is not compare our state of life, happiness, weaknesses, or successes with those of others. There is absolutely no room for competition in the Kingdom of God.

This means not comparing the gift that I am to the gift that anyone else is – and finding joy in that truth. It means reminding ourselves that when our gift is not accepted the way we may want it to be, our worth is in no way decreased. It means seeing everyone I encounter as teachers – and intentionally thanking them for revealing to me the deep truths of myself.

So together, let us fast from the temptation to compare and instead feast on gratitude for the gifts that we are and that we are in the process of becoming.

Is this specific to a spiritual of singleness?

Not necessarily.

But it is unequivocally part of a spirituality of single-mindedness to the Spirit, which still persists long after we have found someone.


Reflection question: What comparison must I stop making?



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2 Comments

  1. Kathleen-507702 April 6, 2011 Reply

    This is a beautiful reflection, Michelle. Thank you for sharing!

  2. Stephanie-654475 April 16, 2011 Reply

    I love this! Thank you!

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