When New York Times columnist Tara Parker-Pope highlighted the many virtues of unmarried Americans last week, I recognized them immediately. It sounded like she was describing CatholicMatch members. She writes:
“Single people often contribute more to the community — because once people marry, they tend to put their energy and focus into their partners and their own families at the expense of friendships, community ties and extended families.”
Among singles’ positive attributes, according to Parker-Pope:
- They offer more practical or routine help to their parents. (The stats: 84 of never-married women vs. 68 percent of married women; 67 percent of never-married men vs. 38 percent of married men.)
- They’re more connected with siblings, nieces and nephews.
- They’re more likely to volunteer in the community.
- They’re more likely to visit with neighbors.
- They’re more likely to sign petitions and attend political gatherings.
“It’s the unmarried, with or without kids, who are more likely to take care of other people,” Dr. Naomi Gerstel, a sociologist at the University of Massachusetts, told Parker-Pope. “It’s not having children that isolates people. It’s marriage.”