What Is Love? Lisa’s Man-On-The-Street Interview (Video)


CatholicMatch hits the road: Lisa Duffy interviews people about their definition of love

Sometime after my divorce many years ago, I remember complaining about not being able to meet good Catholic guys that were available to date. Why was the bar scene always the place people wanted to meet?

I couldn’t figure it out and a friend of mine asked, “Well, what other things do you like to do?”

The funny thing was I really didn’t have an answer for that question. I’d been immersed for years in working overtime to pay the bills and get ahead somehow and I really had kind of lost touch with the part of me that used to enjoy life. And that got me to thinking…

Suppose I met someone I really liked and was able to identify activities I liked so we could do them together, then what? What was I expecting from that new relationship?

I was excited about the prospect of meeting someone new, but at the same time, mildly frightened that I would make the wrong choice again and end up even more hurt than when I started out. So I knew I needed to give this a lot of prayerful consideration. I needed to be able to know what I wanted in a romantic relationship and what my expectations would be if we ever got married.

Also, I needed to be confident of what I had to contribute to these relationships.

In the encyclical Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI says:

“[Man] cannot always give, he must also receive. Anyone who wishes to give love must also receive love as a gift… Yet to become such a source, one must constantly drink anew from the original source, which is Jesus Christ, from whose pierced heart flows the love of God… Only in the way of contemplation will he be able to take upon himself the needs of others and make them his own.”

Most of us understand that having a lasting relationship takes work and oftentimes that work lies in sacrificing for the good of the one you love. The pope makes a fabulous point here, in that we must be receivers as well as givers. It’s what brings harmony to a couple’s relationship.

This self-refinement exercise really helped me grow in confidence and self-worth and prepare me for the day I did meet my husband. Reflecting on this in the last few weeks motivated me to make you this little video. I hope you enjoy it and maybe it will motivate you, too, and help you define your answer to the question: What is love?






15 Comments

  1. Kathy-555815 October 13, 2011 Reply

    That is an excellent video. You ought to do more videos on different catholic subjects

  2. Maria-689654 October 13, 2011 Reply

    Hi Lisa,
    Thank you for this post. To me love is giving of oneself to the one I love; loving him until it hurts; clinging to each other in the roller coaster called life and rejoicing and cherishing each other and our life together from moment to moment; not to take each other for granted; to continue the romance each and everyday in the small things ( hugs, kisses, saying “I love you” spontaneously);support each others’ dreams; to love each other as we grow older and age ( to see the beauty in the heartand soul passed the wrinkles, sags, and flabs); most specially to see God in each other’s person.
    Thank you for the opportunity to write my post.

    Maria

    • Lisa Duffy
      Lisa Duffy October 13, 2011 Reply

      Maria,

      That’s a beautiful description of what love is! Thanks for adding that to the conversation. Love is definitely a moment-to-moment thing as you say.

      - Lisa

  3. LillianTeresa-528523 October 14, 2011 Reply

    That was fun

    • Lisa Duffy
      Lisa Duffy October 14, 2011 Reply

      Thanks, Lillian! Glad you enjoyed it! Blessings to you! (yes, I’m an exclamation-aholic!)

  4. Elizabeth-753085 October 14, 2011 Reply

    Thanks!

    • Lisa Duffy
      Lisa Duffy October 14, 2011 Reply

      Thank you, Elizabeth! Blessings to you!

  5. Ryan-672439 October 14, 2011 Reply

    Hi Lisa, I polled my co-workers at a casino with this question a couple years ago. It was awesome. Most answers were about feelings, but there is one I liked the best and I heard it only once, and it is the answer I give you, “God is love.” Thank you for the video = cool!
    -Ryan

    • Lisa Duffy
      Lisa Duffy October 14, 2011 Reply

      Ryan – Thanks for your response and WOW – wish I could have bee there to hear everyone’s response to your polling! What I love about media today is the “real life” aspect. It makes communication so much better.

      Blessings to you!

      - Lisa Duffy

  6. Mike-646924 October 14, 2011 Reply

    First Great interview video!! Love is: Give & Take and being there through thick & thin; And also love is listening to the other person! Also Love is: ya would climb mountains for that other person; And also sharing the same Faith too! now that’s Love Mike “peace”!!

  7. Dolores-722124 October 15, 2011 Reply

    Fun video to watch. Humor and honesty. food for thought! Would love to see more blogs like this. Thanks

  8. Ramona-738757 October 21, 2011 Reply

    God and Love is the same for me. Without the emotion freely given from pure Love I wouldn’t know how to give or receive it. Always faithful, never deceiving, unconditional, truthful, intimate and so much more. Our also The Divine’s attributes as well. Even Victor Hugo said, “To love someone is to see the face of God.” When we are disappointed in another it is because we either haven’t or for whatever time were unable to see these attributes-His Face.

  9. Diana-956573 May 3, 2013 Reply

    Thank you Lisa for the video. That was fun. :)

    #73 Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, the romance and you still care for that person.

  10. Debbie-514749 August 18, 2013 Reply

    So COOL Lisa! Thank you…

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