Congratulations to John Zielinski, a 37-year-old CatholicMatch member who is the subject of an in-depth profile about cherishing his virginity in today’s Daily Herald. Here’s an excerpt from Burt Constable’s column:
He understands that society doesn’t necessarily share his view on the importance of virginity. Even the same people who preach about the need for a high school freshman girl to keep her virginity often conclude that a man who hasn’t had sex with a woman by age 37 is either gay, asexual, a pedophile or plain-old weird.
“I’m not naive,” says Zielinski, who played college baseball, still plays for a semipro team in Addison and acknowledges that he’s been teased, ridiculed and called names because he hasn’t had sex.
“They’ll say, ‘You’re a loser,’” Zielinski says, recalling one critic who had been married five times. “I don’t know, to see people constantly hooking up, who’s the real loser? You’re not really being a real man.”
Constable goes on to write:
Zielinski, who says he has had only a few dates in his life and is now looking for a partner on CatholicMatch.com, acknowledges that he didn’t really have a chance to lose his virginity in high school or college when many of his peers had sex. He wasn’t a stud athlete and he had bad skin, he says.
“In the end, not being a chick magnet is a blessing in disguise,” says Zielinski, who adds that he might not have had the strength and maturity to resist temptation then. “Should I ever get married, I want my bride to know, regardless of where she was, I was waiting for her and her alone. I want to give myself to her as a gift that no one else could have.”
“There are plenty of virgins in hell and plenty of prostitutes in heaven,” says Zielinski, who adds that he’ll be a contented 90-year-old virgin if that’s where his life takes him.
“I just want to do what (God’s) will is,” Zielinski concludes. “Knowing God is better than sex.”
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