Divorce is so unjust, so unfair… even for those who kept it as a last option and ended up being forced to file. Does anyone really ever get married with the intention of getting divorced? In the aftermath, it can seem that the injustice just keeps on going if you see your ex-spouse remarry, as if your marriage never existed; if your ex-spouse speaks dishonestly to others about what really happened; or even if he or she continues to receive the sacraments while not being free to do so. It can all seem so unfair.
But remember Christ’s words in the gospel of Luke where He tells us that not everyone who cries, “Lord! Lord!” will have the door to heaven opened for them. When you have to deal with the injustice of your situation, remember that Jesus told us we would need to enter through the narrow gate and that not everyone will be able to do so. Let what you are suffering through now help you go through that narrow gate. And as you do, remember those you know who perpetrate the injustices you suffer for they might be the ones to whom Christ says “I do not know you” when the end comes. It would be a great thing if you could consider offering up all that you are suffering through for them so that they might be humbled before the Lord, repent, and be let in to eternal life. That could be a final gift of love for your ex-spouse.
Strive to enter through the narrow door; for many, I tell you, will seek to enter and will not be able. Once the head of the house gets up and shuts the door, and you begin to stand outside and knock on the door, saying, ‘Lord, open up to us!’ then He will answer and say to you, ‘I do not know where you are from. Then you will begin to say, ‘We ate and drank in Your presence, and You taught in our streets'; and He will say, ‘I tell you, I do not know where you are from; DEPART FROM ME, ALL YOU EVILDOERS.’ – Luke 13: 24-27