Making Sense Out Of Losing The One You Love


The Art Of Letting Go

Moving sales… estate sales… garage sales… yard sales. After divorce, these scenarios are quite typical whether you are wanting to rid yourself of items that bring back sad memories, or are just trying to raise some cash to get you through a terrible time. For whatever reason you find yourself selling what you own, it can be a very surreal situation.

 
You may think, I was happy with the way things were. I don’t want to let go of these things. I don’t want to be divorced! Life is so unfair! 
 

When big changes happen that drastically change your life, especially a divorce, it’s important to turn to God for answers.
 
 
But what happens when you don’t get an immediate answer or inspiration from God regarding why this has happened and how you are expected to proceed in the wake of your suffering? In times like these, I recommend a simple and effective tool to find understanding, consolation, and peace: the Gospel Reflection.
 
 
Let’s take the parable of the rich young man, for instance.
 
 
In the Gospel of Mark, Jesus tells the rich young man to sell everything and follow Him, but the young man walked away sad because he had many possessions. But Jesus knew that if the young man followed His direction, he would be freed.
 
 
Take a moment to read this passage from the bible: Mark 10: 17-29. Put yourself in the shoes of the rich young man and imagine yourself facing Jesus. He says, “Why do you call me good?” because He wants you to recognize that you are good, too. He knows your struggles in living a virtuous life and fighting the good fight. He recognizes that you are trying to live your life as a living example of His love. But the cross is involved, and His final words are, “Sell what you own and follow Me.” The rich young man sadly walked away from Jesus.
 
 
What about you? Could this be a time in your life where God is asking you to do the same? Could this be a time where God is trying to free you from your circumstances that seem right to you, but really aren’t part of His plan? Is He trying to show you a different road to take?
 
 
This may be a terribly difficult concept to embrace when you’ve lost someone you love. There are questions to be answered, but you’re not finding the answers. Maybe, you’ll never know the answers to those questions. This is the time to come closer to Jesus, not to walk away.
 
 
Jesus illustrates for us the art of letting go in this encounter with the rich young man. He didn’t force him to follow Him, nor will He force you. His love for you is wildly passionate, true, and everlasting, yet, He will not mandate your reciprocation. He simply waits for you. As you mourn your losses, let Jesus be your guide and show you the art of letting go.
 
 
Go and sell what you own and give the money to the poor and you will have treasure in heaven; then, come follow me – Mark 10: 21.





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