The way we think and feel impacts the way we behave. Choosing to control what we allow ourselves to think can be a huge factor in relieving the emotional angst caused by divorce and give us empowerment over our own reactions.
It is a good feeling to look back and know that we have handled a treacherous life situation in a kind and compassionate manner. That’s not to say that being assertive isn’t important. Healthy people have boundaries. Keeping the focus on our own behavior is often very hard, but it gives us the ability to choose an exemplary response to hurtfulness.
Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things (Philippians 4:8).