“So are you seeing anyone?”
My face burns red hot and I feel the sweat running down my back. I can’t even escape this question at the dentist office.
“No.” I laugh nervously. “Do you know anyone?”
Then I wait for the I-feel-bad-for-you look to end so I can gracefully change the subject or run out of there as fast as I can.
I cringe every time the dating question comes up. What is the big deal? Why do I let it bother me so much?
Well, because I’m a worrier.
Even though I’m 20 minutes early, I worry I won’t catch my train. Even though my nephew plays Irish football all the time, I worry that he will break his wrist. Even though I am only in my early 30s, I’m afraid that I will be single forever!
Maybe this sounds dramatic, but I do worry. Why haven’t I met someone? Did I miss God’s plan for me?
I carry all this worry into the adoration chapel and kneel in front of the blessed sacrament shouting my questions and demanding answers. But I hear nothing.
I then decide to flip to the readings for the next day. The Gospel was from Matthew (6:24-34):
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, … Look at the birds in the sky; they do not sow or reap, they gather nothing into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you more important than they? Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span? … But seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given you besides. Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself. Sufficient for a day is its own evil.”
And then I knew I was exactly where I needed to be: At our Lord’s feet, receiving his sweet consolation.
I was so focused on the day-to-day stresses that I forgot to put God first. His gentle reminder brought me a rush of peace. He was smiling down on me saying, “Don’t worry. I know where we are going. Just follow me.”
I don’t know what bumps are on the road ahead. I don’t know if I will be single tomorrow or for many tomorrows, but next time I hear the question, “Are you seeing anyone?” I’ll know to say “I’m leaving it in God’s hands and not worrying about tomorrow.”
How about you? How do you answer the dating question?