Now that summer is officially over, we are on the brink of one of the toughest times of the year for singles, the holiday season. It is going to be here before you know it and I have personally experienced the dread that begins setting in when you start to think of the awkwardness you’ll feel at parties and family events because you are still single. Heck, even Halloween can be depressing.
My friends, it’s tough. And it doesn’t matter whether you’ve never been married, or are divorced or widowed. The holidays can make life feel extra difficult compared to the lives of people who are dating, engaged, or married. That being said, I would like to share a true story with you that might make the holidays a much better experience for you. You can read the entire story in the quick-read book Let It Go by Chris Williams. Here is the premise of the story:
In February 2007, a teenaged drunk driver in an SUV collided with a family of seven in a sedan, causing a horrific accident that killed the wife and her unborn child, and two of the four other children. The family had been on their way home from getting ice cream after a basketball game. The drunk driver walked away from the accident unharmed.
What a tragedy!
Can you imagine the lawsuit that followed? Can you imagine the agony of this man and how he must have felt toward the driver who killed most of his family? Can you imagine the guilt and despair that the teen who caused all this felt? It’s easy to imagine all that, but that’s not what happened.
Chris says that just moments after the accident, he looked around the car and knew without a doubt that his wife, unborn child and two children he could see were gone. He himself was seriously injured and his youngest son in the way back was not making a sound. It was in these few quiet moments Chris heard God tell him, Let it go.
It seems that would be an unthinkable thing to do, right? Where is the justice? Why let the drunk driver get off the hook with no responsibility? What good can come from “letting it go?” But that is precisely what this man did.
The first thing Chris did the next morning was to go to church with his teenage son who had not been in the car the night before. While there, the message he received moments after the accident was confirmed. “Let it go” became his modem operandi. His community rallied around him in support, consolation, and awe, as they saw a man who had every reason to be bitter and angry just lay it all down at the foot of the cross and release it. Just a few days later, a shooting massacre at a local mall would be front page news, and Chris’s message of forgiveness right below that article.
I highly encourage you to read Chris’s book because it is examples like this that help all of us who go through sufferings, trials, and life-changing disasters put things into perspective.
Do you hate the thought of showing up at holiday events alone? Do you have difficult relationships with your family members? Do you have resentment over a romantic split or divorce? Are there people who have been deceitful and downright evil toward you? Let it go.
Letting Go Is Hard To Do
I am not proposing letting go is an easy thing to do. But I am proposing the idea because not only is it the right thing to do, it is precisely what dispenses the anger from your heart and opens it up to the peace Christ promises us. The peace that passes all understanding.
So when your co-workers give you a hard time about being single, or you become irritated that your family arranges a blind date for you, or when you attend mass with your children and see a loving married couple participating at mass together, don’t hold it in. Don’t hold it against anyone. Just let it go.
It’s your life! If you don’t let go, you can’t experience the wonderful things God has in store for you, no matter what your state in life is. Let it all go and experience the freedom that accompanies it!