One of the most painful things about divorce for the spouse who was abandoned is the overwhelming sense of injustice. You married for life and thought your spouse did, too. You agonize over how your spouse could have moved on so quickly and acts as if he or she barely knew you.
This can keep you steeped in anger, looking for someone, anyone to join you in your outrage and acknowledgement of this moral injustice. It’s difficult to resolve these feelings in a positive way, but it’s not impossible.
First, remember it takes time to work through these problems. When you are reminded of the need to forgive, remember that forgiveness is a process. It’s something to work on every day and you may not see progress today, but if you keep trying and asking God for the grace to forgive, you will achieve this goal.
Next, remember what Christ told us in the Gospel of Luke: “There is nothing concealed that will not be revealed, nor secret that will not be known” (Luke 12:2).
On the day of judgement everyone will have to account for our earthly lives, which means your spouse will have to account for abandoning you and all the terrible details that went along with it. That is a sort of heavenly revenge.
But don’t forget that you, too, will have to stand before God and explain your life. That’s why it’s so important to work on getting rid of the resentment toward your ex-spouse; to work on forgiving the injustice and stand blameless before God.
What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs (Luke 12:3).