Usually, there are two types of people in a divorce; the one who left and the one who got left. Although it’s not always the case, many times the spouse who left did so in an act of outright rejection of their husband or wife, which causes immense suffering for the abandoned spouse and children.
This type of injustice is hard to forgive, no doubt. It can take a long time to work through the pain of what happened. Part of what makes the pain subside and experiencing peace is being able to forgive as Christ forgave those who were crucifying Him. “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34).
The thought of forgiving the one who so terribly hurt you may seem impossible, even ridiculous, yet a great way to begin this process of forgiveness is by praying for your ex-spouse. Why? Because if the reason they left was purely self-serving, their soul is in danger.
Jesus told us, “Whoever rejects you (a follower of Christ) rejects me. And whoever rejects me rejects the one who sent me.” For this reason, you need to pray for your ex-spouse who has strayed from the truth. As you do, God will console your heart with His graces, bring you closer to Him, and always be working to bring your ex-spouse back into the fold.
“Whoever rejects you rejects me. And whoever rejects me rejects the one who sent me” (Luke 10:16).