Che Was Literally The Woman Of Steve’s Dreams


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Che and Steve were both prayerful, discerning people and each walked through an arduous path to determine that marriage was the vocation God was calling them to.

“I was long searching for my vocation in life,” the 40-year old Che told CatholicMatch. “I thought I was being called to the celibate life, before I learned that was not my vocation.” For his part, 42-year-old Steve had gone into the seminary, before leaving in 2007, having realized that God was moving him in another direction.

Che felt like going online would be the best way for her find a spouse who shared her values. She lived a life focused on church, work, family and a few friends and believed that she needed a broader horizon in the search for a spouse. Steve had other reasons for choosing CatholicMatch—yes, of course he wanted a site that would enable him to match his own faith and values with that of a mate. But there were other reasons. “I picked y’all because you were cheaper,” the Texas native said with a laugh.

The odds that this couple would connect were remote, at least based on human wisdom. Che lived in the Philippines, but Steve came across her profile. Upon seeing that he’d viewed her, Che returned the favor to Steve and decided to take his interview test. Steve said later that she was the only one whose answers graded out as a perfect match, so distance or no, he contacted her.

It was December 2009 when that initial contact took place and between then and the following May, they continued to keep in touch, while also corresponding with, and seeing other people. By May, Steve felt like something special was developing even if they hadn’t met. He asked Che if she would agree that they would focus exclusively on each other.

Steve got some assistance from his guardian angel in deciding to propose to Che.

She agreed, and for over a year they invested their time and money into frequent contact, international phone calls and e-mails to get to know each other. “We used up a lot of phone cards,” Che recalled. Steve worked on saving up the money to get overseas and finally, by September 2011, he was in the Philippines to visit her in person.

“I spent ten days in the Philippines,” Steve recalled. “And I realized I had a good thing and that I should ask her to marry me.” In reaching this conclusion, Steve had a little help. Upon going to sleep one night, he had a dream where his guardian angel told him to marry Che.

He woke up, and saw that Che had come into the room and was sitting by his bedside. He told her about the dream. Che pointed out that it happened on the Feast of the Guardian Angels. Steve asked her to marry him, and she said yes.

It was August 15, 2012 when Che’s paperwork was finally set for her to come into the United States and exactly one month later, on September 15, they were married in Texas. Steve later looked back at their relationship and realized that—without any deliberate planning on their part—they’d become exclusive to each other on May 13 (The Feast of Our Lady of Fatima), she’d come into the States on August 15 (Feast of the Assumption) and wed on September 15 (Our Lady of Sorrrows). Yes, it was fair to conclude that the Blessed Mother had a hand in all of this.

Steve and Che are both grateful for what they have found in each other. When it all began Che had her doubts that the distance would be overcome, having had friends on CatholicMatch and other online venues who got in contact with American men, and then saw them give up in the face of the challenge. “I thought he wouldn’t want to push through,” she admitted.

But Steve proved to be different. The honesty that she admired in him was accompanied by a prayerful fortitude. She admires the simplicity he brings to life, from being a good son and a good brother to also being a good listener to her.

“He knows just by listening whether I’m feeling bad or feeling tired,” she told CatholicMatch. “And he’s thoughtful in a simple way.” An example was that the first gift Steve gave her was a rosary that he handcrafted. Though he’s subsequently given her other gifts, including another rosary, it’s that first gift she likes best. “Because he made it.”

For his part, Steve advises others on CatholicMatch to be persistent in prayer, and to show patience in letting God’s plan unfold them. The fruits of his own patient and perseverance were the gift of a spouse who shared his values in every way. “For me, it’s heaven sent,” he said.






16 Comments

  1. Melissa-155765 November 10, 2012

    Congratulations and Best Wishes to both of you! Indeed, our Lady and your Guardian Angels had a hand in bringing you together. It’s encouraging to read your story, especially that one of you is a “kababayan” (yes Che, that’s you, because I’m a Filipina too. :) ). The way you live the values – particularly patience, fortitude, perseverance and faith – in your journey toward each other from the beginning until marriage is awesome. Truly, no distance is too far as long as both parties are willing to work in bringing about a relationship.

    God bless you both in your married life.. :-)

  2. Mei-505686 November 10, 2012

    your love story is so inspiring!

    • Steve-283309 November 17, 2012

      thank you mei. i believe there is a test before you marry. god put me thru it and now i am so happy. people think your crazy for your decision to wait and date someone so far away. think of the rest of your life with your soulmate and nothing or no one can match that. god bless!

  3. Rosell-410415 November 10, 2012

    Thank you for sharing. Amazing! God Bless to you both! :-)

  4. Kathy-730470 November 10, 2012

    Your story is very uplifting. It shows the importance of prayer, faith, perseverance and patience. Distance can be overcome. You just have to be open to it. A beautiful story. Thank you for sharing and may you be blessed as husband and wife for many many years.

  5. Mari-611004 November 10, 2012

    Match made in heaven!

  6. Deborah-899832 November 10, 2012

    What a sweet story! Wishing you both all the best!

  7. Sherry-152974 November 11, 2012

    Che? As in my dear friend Che Lopena?

  8. God’s plan prevails…… he both loves you

  9. Jeann-850705 November 11, 2012

    I am praying that God will clear my name for John and open his eyes to let him realize that what he thinks re myself is wrong. I wish he comes and propose shortly

  10. Ma Cecilia L. November 17, 2012

    Thank you everyone for your kind words and warm wishes. God bless us all.

  11. Melinda-922338 November 27, 2012

    very inspiring, the Lord is in the center of this union…
    wishing you both a lifetime of happiness….
    take care and God bless….

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