Seeing The Good In Others

As you rebuild your life after divorce, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of cynicism and believe that no one is trust worthy. This creates quite an obstacle to moving past your divorce and any hope of having a happy relationship in the future. People begin to become objects and only good to us if they serve a purpose. Then, that’s it. We only allow them at arm’s distance. This is yet another stumbling block to finding gratitude in the midst of difficulty: not being able to focus on the good of others.
But we need to do this because we need to refresh our trust in others and especially in God. This may seem difficult to do, but start with someone who is already in your good graces… a child, a friend, etc. Then work your way inward in your circle of acquaintances, friends and family, always looking specifically for the good qualities of another. Did a neighbor bring you a meal or run an errand for you? Did a co-worker treat you kindly? Find a way to see the good in others and then try to keep that perspective constant. The Holy Spirit will show you many good things you may have been missing.
So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another. Romans 14:9

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  1. Stephen-725391 November 26, 2012 Reply

    It’s really difficult and especially to REALLY trust that God isn’t going to through you under the bus, HOWEVER, if, as Fr Tobin advises, the ‘doubt demon’ is talked back to forcefully and forcefully quieted (ain’t easy, you have to force yourself to do it), almost immediately things, small at first, begin to change (you got to force yourself to see them initially – their there) and continue. Weird, never thought it would change – Chapter 17 of “Divorced. Catholic. Now What?” let me try – Thanks with much gratitude! Stephen

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