Lisa wasn’t sure if she was ready to date. It was the summer of 2010 and it had been a year since she’d lost her husband to a heart attack after 22 years of marriage. Not only was she unsure about her readiness, she was also unsure about her desire. When she saw the ad for CatholicMatch in her parish bulletin, it seemed like an ideal solution.
“What a great idea,” she recalled thinking. “I can talk to someone online and not have to mess with dating.” As Lisa saw, the soft and manageable communication that comes with online dating was a good way to see if she was really ready.
Jay was living in the Pacific Northwest. The 53-year-old had gone through a divorce, but his love of God continued, as well as his enjoyment of simple pleasures—his yard, the rising and setting of the sun and a game of golf. The match system paired him up with 46-year-old Lisa, and with her not having any luck in her native Kentucky, she was open to communication—in fact, the distance between them served her overall goal of proceeding with caution.
After weeks of online communication, they moved to phone calls and Skype. In November 2010, they decided to get together in person. Jay came to Nashville, just a two-hour drive for Lisa. “We had the best time of our lives,” Lisa told CatholicMatch. “I knew then, I was ready and wanted a relationship with Jay, and so did he.”
Lisa has three daughters, two of them grown, and all of them had been encouraging her to date prior to her joining CatholicMatch. All three enthusiastically embraced her relationship with Jay. His love of family was something that was important to Lisa, and as far as she was concerned, his interest in music and golf didn’t hurt either.
The long-distance relationship was challenging, but they made it work. After a year of traveling from Kentucky to Washington, they got together with her family in Montana—Lisa’s original home. It was out on a sheep farm, in the pasture, where Jay asked her to marry him and Lisa said yes.
Jay was the one who chose to make the move cross-country. Both he and Lisa work in the city school district, he as a bus driver and she as a family service worker. This past June, they were married.
Lisa’s success is proof that you can start with small expectations, work within your comfort zone and then when the time is right, take a risk to step outward. She did just that with Jay, and they created their own happily ever after.