So you’ve been through a separation and divorce. You know what a harrowing experience that is. But despite how terrible divorce is, many divorced Catholics pray for their ex-spouses frequently, if not all the time. Not only does scripture exhort us to pray for our enemies (Matthew 5:44), but many people still love their ex-spouses despite what has happened.
A friend of mine once told me she offered all her pain and suffering specifically for the soul of her ex-husband. Every tear, every painful question from those who didn’t know what happened, every reminder that her marriage was lost, she offered all of it up to God for the salvation of her husband’s soul.
You never know how God will work in a person’s life, but you should always have faith in God’s ability to work miracles out of even the worst circumstances. Of course you know that the person you are praying for must cooperate with the graces God provides in order for a change of heart to take place, but the opportunity to affect that change lies in your prayers. God can and does use people and circumstances to reach out to a heardened heart.
If you’ve wondered whether or not you should pray for your ex-spouse, you definitely should. The miracle that takes place might just happen inside your heart.
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).