Keep It Real: Avoid Virtual-Only Relationships


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Prudence should be taken in any dating situation, whether you were introduced by a friend, met at a church function, or met online. Here are some practical tips for safe online dating:

Always protect your personal information. Utilizing your profile’s email messaging system and exclusive chat option allows two people to get to know each other in a safe, guarded manner. These options serve as a buffer, allowing time after the initial greeting to determine compatibility without compromising security. Report any concerns about a user to the customer service staff.

Do your own check-ups. Google First. Many employers are now exploring social websites and searching a person’s name to learn more of their background. There is probably more personal information online than we care to know about—but this dynamic can assist us in making informed decisions about people we meet online.

Don’t move too quickly. Take your time, be cautious with all personal information, and enjoy the process. If they are truly the person from the profile, it will show over time. Respect should permeate the communication and conversation early and throughout any relationship. Solicitations for money or personal information before ever meeting should never happen.

Meet face to face. If you’ve had regular communication with a person and things seem to be headed on the right track, then you may want to take it to the next step. Don’t let the phone calls and emails go on too long before meeting, however. If there is a legitimate reason you can’t meet in person (job, family, etc.) then at least begin to video chat. This will help avoid being Catfished and it will give you a more complete and realistic view of the person.

“Meeting online is a great tool, but it is not a tool for carrying on relationships long term,” said CEO and co-founder Brian Barcaro on Relevant Radio’s Morning Air show with Sean Herriott (click here to hear the rest of the interview. The topic is covered in the second half of the show.) Be wary of a person who does not want to meet in person, even after you’ve had regular communication online.

A courtship period should ensue as you get to know each other better. If anything seems peculiar at any time, ask a friend for guidance or advice before responding.

Learn the best practices of using an online dating service by downloading our FREE Online Dating Guide For Catholics. 






8 Comments

  1. Meesch-691047 February 2, 2013 Reply

    you can’t grow a solid relationship via the internet… very true

  2. Nilda-834707 February 2, 2013 Reply

    Thank you for this valuable blog. There is also a great deal of information on the internet about scammers and their methods. LDRs probably pose the biggest threats since you can’t have a F2F real soon. My advise, get them to a web cam chat so that you can match the face to the photo in their profile. If he/she refuses, don’t take a chance and cut communication immediately.

  3. Nigel-748943 February 2, 2013 Reply

    Thank you very much for this impeccable advice.

    Personal safety is absolutely paramount.

    I will be extremely careful with people in social gatherings.

    Once again, THANK YOU!!!

    Yours sincerely,
    Nigel.
    748943.
    Perth, AUSTRALIA.

  4. Joseph-893675 February 2, 2013 Reply

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  5. Bertha-811213 February 3, 2013 Reply

    Nice article……….

  6. Melissa-407647 February 4, 2013 Reply

    Thank you for this advice. It’s very valuable and very important. It reminds us of the meaning of online dating.

  7. Ludilma V. February 5, 2013 Reply

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  8. Belen-935887 February 6, 2013 Reply

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