There are as many ways to know a person is “the one” as there are happy couples. But surely one good way is to see how you react to each other in adverse situations. Some adversity, both small and large, helped Mike and Dana see they were meant to be together.
It was raining hard in the Philadelphia area they both live, as the twentysomethings prepared for their first date. Between work obligations and the weather, Dana ended up forty-five minutes late to the restaurant. Mike not only understood and took it in stride, he later turned the weather to his advantage. After dinner, as they had to watch the downpour and contemplate the merits of a mad dash to their respective cars, he used the brief interlude to ask her on a second date. She accepted.
The second instance was more serious, and it came after they’d gone out several more times. Mike came down with appendicitis. It was Dana who not only rushed him to the hospital, but was at his side through the surgery and his eventual recovery. Her compassion and care gave Mike a pretty good sense that he’d found the woman he was looking for.
These instances of adversity shouldn’t overshadow the good lives both Mike and Dana brought to each other though. Each was happy in their work, Mike as an accountant and Dana as a therapist. Each was close to their family and each had a lot of hobbies they enjoyed. It enabled them to have the security of not “needing” a significant other, but simply desiring someone to share their good fortune with.
Dating was one area where good fortune hadn’t been forthcoming, and it brought Mike to CatholicMatch. He found Dana’s profile and they exchanged emotigrams, which turned into messages, which turned into dinner on a rainy night in Philly.
As they continued to get to know each other, the depth of what they had in common—beyond an ability to handle adversity—continued to shine forth. Mike passed muster with the member of Dana’s family whose hardest to please—her dog Bella, who barks and growls at most everyone. Mike’s ability to immediately make the dog calm gave Dana a little inkling that he was someone special. She further liked the fact that Mike was comfortable with what she perceived as her idiosyncrasies, and the way he could give her a simple smile that conveyed love.
Mike saw in Dana the warm and caring nature that eventually led her to be at his side through appendicitis. She brings openness and ability to listen that made Mike exceptionally comfortable in her presence, and her family orientation convinced him that she was the right choice for a spouse.
Above all, they both wanted someone who shared their Catholic beliefs and values. And that’s what led to an exchange of cards on their one-year anniversary as a couple. Mike wrote “Will You Marry Me?” on the card. Dana laughed it off, thinking it was a joke until she looked up and saw him on his knee with a ring in his hand. She accepted and they will be married in September of 2014.