Trying to view each moment of your life as a gift when you are going through a divorce is hard… maybe even impossible. But like it or not, this is a necessary exercise if you want to truly heal from the pain you are suffering through.
It all comes down to the virtue of gratitude. That’s when you know you have arrived at truly beginning to heal; when you can reflect on the bad times and still be grateful for the relationship.
To remember the day when things were good and appreciate that fact that, even though you don’t have that now, it was still something good, even if it was only temporary. To remember your children when they were little and innocent… good. Sometimes, it’s even good to remember the fights you had with your ex-spouse… not because you relive them, but because you learn from them. You learn to be better in this moment now, and the future.
Relationships fail when God is lacking. You may not be able to bring God back to your marriage, but you can certainly include Him in your everyday moments, thoughts, desires, prayers… right now! Let Him be a part of all of you are so He can bring good things out of your situation. He loves you so much! He wants to show you happiness!
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. – James 1:17