The National Catholic Register featured an article about the benefits and risks on online dating for Catholics. The article explores the advantages and disadvantages of online dating sites with quotes from numerous Catholics who weigh in with their opinions about meeting your spouse online.
CEO and founder of CatholicMatch, Brian Barcaro was interviewed for the article. Brian commented on the importance of using online tools properly:
“‘We remind our members that this is CatholicMatch, not Netflix, and newest members are not like newest releases. Unlike the movies, which are designed to provide two hours of entertainment, meeting the right guy or girl is a completely different type of search,’ Barcaro said.
“He says technology is not to blame for such attitudes.
“‘Online dating … sites are tools—just like Facebook, texting, email or television,’ said Barcaro. ‘Simply because a tool can be abused does not mean the tool itself actually promotes a certain kind of behavior.’
“Instead, the issue relates to a consumeristic culture, Barcaro said. ‘We live in an environment where we are bombarded with choices,’ Barcaro said. ‘When a couple gets married, they have unlimited choices for their reception, and, as a result, the couple [often] spends more time and money and concern over the party than the wedding Mass or preparing for the rest of their lives through the sacrament of marriage,’ he said. ‘Is the answer to discourage or ban wedding receptions? Of course not; it is about establishing and restoring balance.’
“With dating sites, the answer is not to ‘reject the tool,’ but to educate people in how to properly use it, Barcaro said.
“Catholic Match does just that, with a blog that features dating Q and As, meditations on faith and love, summaries of Church teachings and inspirational stories of Catholic couples. The site has a free ‘Guide to Online Dating,’ and it has launched the Catholic Match Institute for Dating and Marriage to combat declining marriage rates among Catholics.
‘The decline in Catholics getting married in the Church is undeniable, but it seems a stretch to blame online dating,’ Barcaro said. He attributes the decline to fewer people valuing marriage.”