Finding Your Best Friend 1,000 Miles Away


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“I never really thought it could work, Lauren said, recalling her first encounter with Michael on CatholicMatch. “He was so far away—a thousand miles—I honestly didn’t think we’d ever be more than friends.”

Michael and Lauren had free profiles on CatholicMatch, and after an exchange of emotigrams, they became full members so they could communicate with each other. “The conversation flowed online as we exchanged messages,” Lauren said. “After several weeks we decided to try using Skype. It felt so natural and I was amazed every day by how strong he was in his faith and how greatly he loved the Lord.”

It was that shared compatibility in faith that had brought Michael and Lauren—like so many others—to CatholicMatch to begin with. They both wanted to find a spouse who loved their faith and loved the Catholic Church. Lauren had spent a year with NET Ministries, serving young Catholics across the United States. Two of the six women she served with had met spouses on CatholicMatch and another in a serious relationship, so she had personal evidence of the site working.

The Skype conversations were bringing them closer together, but the geographic reality was still an obstacle. Michael was living in the Toronto area, where he was closing in on his degree in Aviation and preparing to become a commercial pilot. Lauren was in Minnesota, working on her degree in communications.

Gradually their feelings for each other grew from friendship to something more. “I saw him as such a gift because he was funny,” Lauren said. “He was a good man, a holy man.”

Michael decided to take the leap and fly to Minnesota so he and Lauren could finally meet. “That meeting was truly confirmation that we both felt called to each other and to discern marriage with one another,” she said. “It was really hard to watch him leave that first visit, but I was so happy things had gone well and I knew there would be more visits to come.”

A long-distance relationship requires planning and commitment and Michael and Lauren had no shortage of either. They bought plane tickets and planned out trips into the next year. They found ways to take even Skype communication to a new level, watching movies simultaneously. They bought DVDs of October Baby and watched it online together. They played their favorite game, Connect Four, together.

Even more important, Michael and Lauren kept growing in faith. “We would discuss articles and Theology of the Body” she said. They even went to Mass at the same time on Saturday evening. “It was such a blessing to be able to know that a thousand miles away, at the same moment, he was also partaking in our beautiful Mass and receiving our Lord at the exact time.” Lauren said.

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Lauren & Michael after their nuptial mass.

It was after more meetings and much prayer, that Michael took Lauren out onto an airfield runway to propose. “It was a sight to behold with all the lights and planes,” Lauren said. “I felt so blessed to be able to say yes to my best friend.

Michael and Lauren were married this March and she has relocated to Canada. The couple will be on the move again shortly, because Michael has received a job offer from a Canadian airline and their home base is still unknown. They ask for the prayers of the CatholicMatch community as they move forward together.

Wherever Michael and Lauren are led to, they bring with them a deep reservoir of commitment to each other. “Even though the distance was tough, we made it work,” Lauren said. “Because that’s what you do when your best friend lives a thousand miles away. That’s what you do when you love someone.”






12 Comments

  1. Shorai C. April 2, 2014 Reply

    I hope to find one soon

  2. Lori-1020607 April 2, 2014 Reply

    Another happy ending,. If we just open the door God put in front of us.

  3. Wendy-1064555 April 2, 2014 Reply

    The power of love

  4. Alberto-546988 April 2, 2014 Reply

    I have been declined due to long distance. Not everyone is open at the idea even if it is a good match.

    • Jheff-890967 April 4, 2014 Reply

      yes…i have been having the same results…but i still believe that the “one” will take that leap too..just have to trust ij God’s will and perfect timing..:)

  5. Geraldine-1032218 April 2, 2014 Reply

    I sometimes think I would move for the right person, but I think when it comes down to it there’s no place like home… I like to think I would meet someone who could live with me, my mum and my brother, we’re all nice and we get along with each other. They say what’s for you won’t go by you.

  6. Chris-34680 April 3, 2014 Reply

    It’s been my experience that the older you get, the less likely long-distance relationships will work. Put simply, people in their 30s and 40s become more entrenched in chosen professions, as well as their civic and spiritual communities. It’s completely normal and therefore is no one’s fault when the relationship reaches an impasse. No matter how much both parties tell each other they love each other, no matter how optimistic their hopes and dreams, unless one person has total job and family flexibility, it’s really a tempting waste of time to pursue. If you’re in your 20s, as this couple appears to be, it’s different, since each is just starting out in their lives. But life becomes much more complicated as you become more mature and your responsibilities increase. My 2 cents.
    Best wishes to the couple profiled in this story!
    -C.

    • Jennifer-728047 April 6, 2014 Reply

      True true! So, the goal is to back it on up! Guys? Trash your porn, get emotionally mature and pursue us earlier. Women? Respect yourself, and demand more of it from guys. It’s all SO much easier when you ‘grow up’ with each other. Unchastity (porn, masturbation, etc) stunts growth and desire to commit. Yes, guys….we ladies who deal with guy after guy with mama issues, hiding in the Church, not getting really healed and healthy – know it very well.

  7. Mike-646924 April 3, 2014 Reply

    There’s a ole saying; (somebody told me) Its usually not a problem to go from point A to point B; What i mean (most) of us can hop in a car and drive; or ya can get a plane ticket etc. its when you get there; unforunaly (things) cost money; and LDR’s aren’t cheap; Dont get me wrong it might work; But ya have to be flebile; Oh also Congrats; above (story) i hope & pray everything works out for them!! Yeah Ldrs are sometimes are hard to come by.

    • Jennifer-728047 April 6, 2014 Reply

      …..you’re thinking too ‘human’ Mike. If you trust, you trust. You can’t be plotting out all the challenges. For when you meet some one incredible, you sacrifice and not count the cost. Many say they “can’t afford to eat healthy” YET they have iPhones. Hmmm…priorities. So, for love, aren’t we supposed to give? :

      • Jheff-890967 April 7, 2014 Reply

        Im right there with you jennifer! If a guy is truly interested in a girl and loves her, he will do everything for them to be together just like these two people up here who proved it!
        im sure there are still guys out there..regardless of what age they are who would agree on the lyirics of the song “aint no mountain high enough..to keep me from you..” ..and frankly im one of those girls who believe ill find one or he will find me! :)

  8. Jeanne-1064373 April 3, 2014 Reply

    Beautiful couple and a beautiful story – some things are worth the effort!

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